This time last year I was pregnant with my second child. I struggled with so many questions going on inside my head. How do i love another child as much as I all ready love my first? Is my heart big enough and am I capable of loving another child ? Am I neglecting my first's needs' by bringing another child into this family?
These may all seem like irrational yet relatable thoughts that you have had as well. It's hard to prepare for the unknown but 11 months in I can say that it all works out OK.
I've learnt a few things so far and as were just about approaching his first birthday (literally crying inside. How did this happen?) I thought it was a good time to reflect on a few things i'd learnt so far!
♡ Playgroups exist around their sibling's friends.
There's no time or energy to go to different playgroups every week. Most happen during baby;s nap time or kindy/school drop off's. Your first type of a 'playgroup' will be siblings of your first childs friends or those you see every day at drop off and pick up.
If you have made other mum friends and created a playgroup by meeting new people with your second then that's amazing.Well done!
♡ You and your second child learn to go with the flow.
Go with the flow has been given an entire new meaning. If you thought you were a chilled back relaxed parent before then this will make you even more chill.Your second child learns to nap on the goand routine is out the window totally.
♡ You drink twice as much coffee.
With my first child I already knew that I liked coffee and relied on it a little too much. My one cup a day got me through days of sleep deprivation and helped me survive. Now days, even though second child is super chill I need at least two (ok maybe three!) cups of coffee to get through.
♡ You don't give any fucks who thinks what about your parenting style.
When you have baby number one, not only are you learning what works for your family and how to parent, but your also making huge life changes yourself. Maternity leave, changing financial dependency and learning how to cope while raising a tiny human is HARD.
Second time around? You know what worked / didn't before, you know to shrug unwanted opinions off and that the only opinions that matter are yours and your partner's.
This sort of contradicts the statement above that says the second child are chill and relaxed. However what I mean is that in a split second they can get into just as much mischief. You need to give one on one time with each child every day but also keep the peace. One minute my boys are best friends and two seconds later someone is crying. It's honestly a madhouse.
But giving twice the love means twice the affection back, twice the amount of giggles and joy and twice the amount of love in your heart each night before you go to bed.
I wouldn't change these two for the world and despite my initial concerns my heart has adjusted and grows each day. I'm very lucky to be their mum.
Lipstick and love!
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